Secrets

What secret would you most like to free yourself of?

Imagine opening a book and discovering that a postcard had been slipped between the pages with a stamp, an address, and an invitation to send in your secret. What would you write? Would you trust your secret to the post office, even anonymously?

And what do your answers to those questions tell you about yourself?

This is the real thing, and 100,000 postcards have already been mailed along with their senders’ deepest secrets. Those who have chosen to forgo anonymity say they find the experience both cathartic and liberating. The postcards get posted at http://www.PostSecret.com, where fifty million people have visited and gotten a forbidden glimpse, been moved and found out they are not alone.

Secrets isolate us, and they can bring us together. For me, I know that if I’m considering doing something and my gut says, “I hope So-And-So doesn’t find out about this,” I immediately know not to do it, or to find another way to go about things that welcomes total transparency. It’s my way of staying in connection and avoiding mental clutter.

And it’s not like I’m perfect. So, when I slip up or when other people ask me if they should reveal their secrets, my response isn’t actually cut and dried. It’s a matter of examining motivations with questions like: Would revealing the secret hurt someone else? What good might come of it? What’s the most courageous choice?

When is it okay to hurt someone else to get freedom from our secrets? When is it not?

I think that is why the concept of PostSecret so delights me. It seems to offer freedom without causing harm.

Check it out. It can be our little secret.