To ring in the new year, we celebrate with family and close friends. We enjoy a fine meal, champagne and entertain ourselves by staging ‘No Talent’ shows that are as fun for the people ‘performing’ as those watching.

Now you know you’re partying with a coach when, close to midnight, everyone is handed (more…)

The other week we traveled to San Diego to attend the memorial for a dear friend of ours. I met John while in college, and he and his wife were the host family for the cute exchange student who was later to become (more…)

Just like any parent of a young child, these days I’m training my daughter to appreciate others and their acts of kindness by saying “Thank you”. We’re all trained to be sincerely grateful for good luck, blessings and gifts from people and the universe. Yet, oddly enough, we rarely get into the habit of thanking ourselves. (more…)

I’ve been giving a number of radio interviews in support of our upcoming book, Winning Without Compromising Yourself. It’s led to many great conversations about the end of wedge issues, and (more…)

I just returned from the annual meeting of the International Coach Federation. It’s a great time to connect with my colleagues from around the world and spend time with friends who I respect so much that I’m always pleasantly amazed and grateful that I can contribute to them! (more…)

What secret would you most like to free yourself of?

Imagine opening a book and discovering that a postcard had been slipped between the pages with a stamp, an address, and an invitation to send in your secret. What would you write? Would you trust your secret to the post office, even anonymously? (more…)

Pre-traumatic stress disorder is a term I invented once on a coaching call. I was working with a client who was in absolute anguish over something she had convinced herself was going to happen. Even though my term is about as pop-psychology as it gets, in the years since that call, I’ve seen many clients consumed with pre-living disastrous scenarios that they misperceive as being real. (more…)

Most everything I ever needed to know about focus I learned one summer at the pool. I was about ten when I took my first diving class. The instructor was a pretty high school student who told us not to look down at the water, or we would fall into the pool without meaning to. I didn’t believe her; I mean who had so little coordination they would just fall in by looking? (more…)

Warning: Reading this (at the wrong time) can impair your ability!

A fascinating clinical study found that the IQ of workers who juggled phone calls, e-mails, text messages and their work fell by 10 points during the course of the day. 10 points are the equivalent of a whole night’s sleep. (more…)

If patience is a virtue and we’re living and working at breakneck speed, do we have to give up our virtue in the name of profitability? The surprising answer is probably not. If you and your employees have a healthy impatience, you will refuse to remain stuck because when people put their ego aside and don’t have to be the one with the answers, they can reach out for help and get unstuck quickly. (more…)